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What I Know for Sure… August 12, 2011

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Giving the present...

I know. Not very original. I stole the title from Oprah’s magazine. It’s an awesome concept so I thought I’d blog about it. What I know for sure is I have soooooo much to be grateful for in this life.  I read a really great quote about gratitude. It want something like this… “Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.” I love that. So simple but so true. Here is a list of some of the things I am grateful for…
God, my family, friends, friends who are family, dogs, sunshine, my health, my curly hair, the things my mom taught me, sisters, daughters, nieces, nephews, brothers, my husband, grandchildren, chocolate, missing things I’ve lost, love, bounce sheets in the dryer, when a headache goes away, naps, getting the punchline of a joke right, knowing when the Holy Spirit is with me, “God” winks, reading till I fall asleep, baby animals, baby people too, Cameron’s creativity, Asher’s laughter, Cole’s singing, making breakfast in Glamis, my succulents, Ryan’s wisdom, when I feel confident, knowing I’ve done the right thing, being forgiven, sunsets at the Fish Market, unique heart-shaped leaves, losing myself in laughter, when I am able to truly meditate, making someone smile, watching Jen teach Cole new things and seeing her eyes light up when she does, butterflies reminding me of my mom, cracking my husband up, Andrea rediscovering her “family”, long conversations where me and the other person learn from one another, sharing my story so I might help someone else, David’s grilled chillies, and did I say chocolate?

This list doesn’t begin to touch the surface. I know some of the things are silly, but they’re “my silly things.” Are there things you’re grateful for that maybe you’ve just forgotten how much they mean to you? Look around you right now. What’s there that makes you go, “awww…” or “wow…” or just plain makes you happy, or content, or relaxed? We take the things and people around us for granted every single day. Take a moment and take them in.

It’s a concept called “mindfulness.” Being present in the moment. I’m still practicing it. Everyday there are reminders… a song, a smell, a favorite food. If you think about it, you’ll realize there really is an endless list of things to be grateful for in life.

Give it a try… You’ll be grateful you did!

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Where’s my thought…? March 23, 2011

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Where’s my thought?
Far from where it began.
No roots to keep in on target.
Moving rapidly into negativity.
It started as a fun idea.
Moved to doubt.
Back to possibility.
Hey, where’s my thought?
Bring it back to its purity.
The idea was to try out a new skill.
Maybe write a poem…
I can’t write a poem.
Well, just maybe I can.
Guess what…?

 

Standing up to my random negative thoughts June 18, 2010

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“Happiness is when what you think, what you say, and what you do are in harmony.”
Mahatma Gandhi

I get a little email daily called “Quote Action of the Day.”  It’s a little tidbit that I look forward to reading every morning.  I’m always so anxious to see what new wisdom I can glean from my Blackberry each morning.  I began this post with the quote above.  I had to read it a few times to get the meaning.  And I still think it’s deeper than I can even grasp.  But the first thing Gandhi mentions is “What you think…”   I learned through a lot of therapy that it’s difficult to change the way our minds “automatically” think after years and years of conditioning.  It can be done, but it is hard.  And it is oh so easy to slip back into old patterns.

Lately I’ve been feeling a little sorry for myself.  I’ve been allowing myself to wallow in my distorted thoughts about how others feel about me.  This only leads to depression, anger, anxiety, etc., etc.  To remind myself how much I’m loved, I look at pictures, read cards, emails and letters from friends and family.  My negative thoughts run so deep that I’m still doubting the truth of my last statement, am I really loved??  Unless a lot of people I know are great actors and actresses, I am indeed loved.  I hate that I doubt myself like that.

Insecurity runs rampant in my family.  I think we’d all have differing reasons as to why that is so.  But it is.  I’m the baby of seven kids.  The “spoiled rotten” one.  We all have different memories of growing up.  Different memories of our parents.  I’m not going to try to analyze it, but I just wish each of us seven “kids” was able try new things without doubting our abilities.  I would be so happy if none of us worried about whether we sounded dumb to someone.  It would be incredible if not one negative thought came into our minds when we walk into a crowded room.
I am not positive all seven of us are insecure, but I know at least a few of us are and it makes me so sad.  I’ll say a little prayer that God might help each of us to stand up to our negative thoughts and conquer our biggest insecurities.

 

Happy Where I AM April 15, 2010

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It’s been a while since my last post. Things keep moving right along. The older I get, the more I realize what a great life I have. I’m always writing about being grateful and kind. Both are important. I also think it’s important to be observant. Check out what is right under your nose. We worry too much about what we don’t have. What does our friend have that we want. Where did they go that I haven’t been? Look much thinner is that person than I am? What about looking at what we DO have. If we spend too much time dwelling on where we “want” to be or what we “wish” we had, we’ll forget to appreciate what we have and where we are right now. Another thing we have to remember is that if we keep saying how unhappy we are it will make those around us feel like they are somehow to blame. I read an interesting thought on a card the other day. It said “Happiness is where you plant it.” I believe that is true. A few little things to be happy about… lady bugs, chocolate, naps, smiles, sunsets…

 

Thank You Lord January 19, 2010

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I have to post this today. I feel like my fingers can’t type fast enough.

I am so thankful that I know my Lord and Savior. If you’re not one for religion, you are probably going to stop reading if you haven’t already… But you must still be reading.

I was lucky enough to meet Jesus at a very young age thanks to my next door neighbors. God bless them. They took me to church with them every Sunday. Even when I moved away, they drove by my house to pick me up! Wow. I love them for that. I got to go to potlucks, camps, and other fun Christian activities.

Through the years I have drifted away from the Lord but I always come back to Him. I know in my heart and soul that Jesus is my Lord, he died on the cross for my sins and that he is perfect in every way. His Holy Spirit resides in me and guides me.

I’m still such a baby in Christ. I have to be reminded all the time to pray. To talk to God. To listen for His guidance and support. If you are not a Christian, I am here to tell you there is hope. There is a bright light. There is a warmth that will envelope you when your are scared and alone. It’s the love of our Father. And you get three for one… God the Father, his Son Jesus Christ and the Holy Spirit. When I get confused if I should be saying “God” or “Jesus” in speaking about them, I know either will do. They’re one in the same.

I guess my purpose for writing this is to send a message for anyone out there who is feeling alone, scared, hopeless, sad, depressed or any of those types of feelings, you always have a friend in Jesus Christ. I know that sounds cliche, but He will never leave you. He will only love you. Pick up a bible if you can and try just opening it and reading it a little. Psalms and Proverbs were good places for me to start.

In the last couple days I’ve seen some pretty neat things happen in the lives of those I love and in my own life. I feel compelled to share my hope and joy. I feel like dancing and singing right now. And I want others to feel that joy too!! I believe with all my heart that I am at this place because of my Lord and Savior. You can be here too! It’s fun!!!!!!!!

 

Be mindful all the time… Past hurts come back to haunt the inflictor and inflictee January 5, 2010

Life has a funny way of “reminding” us of things we have done in our past. Every minute of every day we should be mindful of what we do and say. Our actions, comments, gestures, etc. all become part of our past experiences and the experiences of those we encounter.

It seems like it should be so easy to avoid creating “past hurts.”  Just don’t create them, right?  I’m learning why it’s not that easy.  I have firsthand knowledge of how these hurts resurface late in a person’s live.  I am speaking specifically from recent experience.  At this very moment I am witnessing past hurts making themselves very current and real.  It’s a strange phenomenon to watch.  The particular past hurts I’m talking about are hurts that cut deep.  They are ugly.  They are mean.  They are scary.  They are cruel.  They are sad.  Past hurts are part of what mold us as people.  They are unfortunately a huge factor in making us who we are.  No matter how much we try to deny, hide from, bury or ignore them, past hurts are there.  Usually in a big way.

The process of creating “past hurts” is a complex and when they’re created it’s sometimes unintentional.  Sort of a learned behavior.  It is far too complicated to explain in my blog and I’m certainly not qualified.  But I want to give my opinion for what it’s worth.

We will do whatever it takes to experience these important emotions.  We will especially do whatever it takes to please the ones who are supposed to love us, keep us safe and accept us the most in our lives.  These people are our parents and families.

Simply put, people learn early in life just what they have to do to feel loved, safe and accepted.  Good or bad, these “tapes” are recorded in our brains at about six years old, from what I’ve heard.  Again, I’m not an expert but I trust the source of this information.  WOW!!  At six our core personalities are pretty much set.  No wonder at 47 I’m still figuring out how to erase and re-record!

I know it’s not possible to recreate our past or erase past experiences.  I also know it is possible to make peace with past hurts and fill yourself up with better stuff!!!  I truly do KNOW this.  Depending on how you look at it you can have fun doing it or you can make it seem more like work!  I’m doing it and I’m having fun.  Yes, I have some bad days.  I do still have little pity parties for the little girl in me who didn’t have a daddy who carried her on his shoulders or tucked her in at night and called her Princess.  (Sorry, I digress…)

Baking cookies with Liz

My point is, I have choices to make every day.  I can carry on the negative thoughts and feelings or I can have fun creating wonderful future “past” experiences for myself and those I encounter.  Baking cookies with my niece, telling stories to my grandson,

Stories...

Telling Cameron a Story

thanking a soldier, reminding my kids how much I love and appreciate them…  These are all things I “choose” to do.  And they make me and someone else happy.  Hey, a positive “past” experience had by all.  It’s actually pretty easy.

Here are a few things I’ve been thinking of as I write;

If you want your children to grow up to be nice people, be nice to them and be nice to others, your kids are watching.

If you want to be respected, treat others with respect.

If you want to be appreciated, show appreciation for the things you have and the people who do nice things for you.

If you want to smile, make someone else smile.

If you want to feel good, make others feel good.

If you want your children to be confident, never stop telling them how proud they make you.

If you want to be understood, try to understand how someone else feels before you think about your own feelings.

If you want to have close friends, offer your support to a friend in need.

If you want your children to be kind, show them how.

If rude people bother you, don’t be rude yourself.

Remember.  Be mindful of what you do and say every minute of every day.  After all.  You’re creating “past” experiences.

I am going to end with something I read recently in an article about setting priorities.  A man was talking about a slap in the face he got when he heard his 5-year-old son talking to a little friend.  His little boy said, “I don’t think my Daddy likes being around me.  Every time I ask him to play with me when he comes home from work he says he’s too tired.”  This man broke down and cried!  Now he plays with his son in the morning before work and in the evening after dinner,  every single day!!  And a lot more on weekends.  Bad “past hurts” transformed into “great memories” and far more for a lucky little boy and his Dad!

 

Reminding myself that I can’t change people or make their decisions for them December 13, 2009

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Mama bird feeding her baby

Why do I get so upset about bad decisions made by the people I love? I think I just obsess about what I could have done differently myself to make a positive influence on what they do in their lives. Once again I’m reminded that I am only in control of ME! You’re only in control of YOU. Just ’cause we love them doesn’t mean we’ll always be happy with their choices. All we can do is pray for them and be there if they need us.